Lost and alone.

'Hi, I have a blog/video request :) Recently, I've been going through a rough time with friendships and relationships, and it's getting a bit hard for me. Many of my close friendships have faded, and I'm just lost and feeling alone a lot of the time. Any advice is appreciated xx'


Dear anon,


  Thanks for the request. First of all I'd like to say that it means alot that you've decided to assess the situation and find help. Hopefully you find my words useful.

  You see, this is a general topic. It really is dependent on who let the relationships go. Are you noticing a change in your friends' behaviour, or have your relationships simply just faded away? 

  Majority of the time, friendships and relationships fail due to misunderstandings. It's a sad fact but it happens all the time. Now I certainly would not like that to happen to you, or anyone for that matter. I strongly urge you to confront those who mean most to you, and make your worries known. It may seem intimidating, but you're going to regret it when time flies and you're still left wondering. Trust me, if they are willing to listen, you will reach a compromise. Talk it out and go with the flow - even if that means letting go of the friendship/relationship. Accept what's done and move on.

  Life is short, you should only ever have time for people who truly care for you.

  Though if it's the latter, I highly suggest you take a look at yourself. If you can't seem to think of anything wrong that might've resulted to this, then examine yourself. Is there anything that's been troubling you recently? 

  Because if so, you must not let these things affect the way you treat other people, or how you live. I know what depression is. It's a deep pit of self-pity and bleakness. Remember, you are definitely more than you think you are. I've been through this, so I completely understand where you're coming from. But please note, the only person who can determine your happiness is you. You are in charge of your own wellbeing - I'm not saying that everything will go your way, life certainly doesn't work like that. What I'm saying is that whatever happens, you need to shift your attitude to a positive spectrum. Distract yourself from the thoughts that may surface, and go outside and take a walk. Appreciate nature, get a hobby. If you find this all to prove futile, seek others. The human body can only do so much.

  What are friends for? They're people who can always lend you a hand in times of need. As long as you two hold a mutual sense of trust and respect for each other, anything is possible. People need each other to function emotionally. That's what I think anyway.

  Bottom line: Please talk to your friends about all this. If it doesn't work out, be wise and make friends who are worth your time.

  Last of all, please take some time to smile for a bit. I promise it's good for you. You can always send me a message on Facebook, if you want to talk about this further.


Best of luck,
Rachel x

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